时差N小时:为酗酒的女儿烦恼

Dear Annie: My unmarried 30-year-old daughter hasa drinking and behavioral problem that hasescalated over the past year.

亲爱Annie：我还未婚的30岁女儿养成了饮酒的坏习惯，这么多年都没有得到改善。

We have encouraged Terrie to get alcohol counseling or attend A.A.

我们鼓励过Terrie去戒毒所或参加戒酒互助会。

She tried it once and quit. I believe she is bipolar, but mental health counselors will not treather until she quits drinking.

她曾经尝试过，但还是放弃了。我觉得她处于两个极端，但是心理健康咨询师说直到她把酒瘾戒掉才能给她心理上的治疗。

After her last outburst, I sent her a text message and said we could no longer have arelationship unless she gets help.

在她上次发病后，我写给她一张便条，上面写着除非她接受治疗，要不我们就断绝关系。

Shortly after, she left town and moved to Florida with a friend who also drinks.

不久后，她离开了，和一个同样酗酒的朋友搬去了佛罗里达州.

Should I keep the lines of communication open, or will my ultimatum help her reach bottomso she can start climbing back up?

我应该与她保持沟通,或者再最后忍耐一下，也许这样她就可以回来了?

I tried Al-Anon, but the members only offer support and friendship to each other, which is nice,but it doesn't change my daughter.

我去过匿名戒酒者协会，但那儿的成员都是彼此提供支持与帮助，那儿很好，不过却没能改变我女儿。

— Concerned Mom Dear Concerned: Al-Anon is not intended to change the alcoholic's behavior,only your response to it.

一位母亲提到：匿名戒酒者协会不是在有意改变酗酒者的行为，而要改变你们的反应。

Choosing not to stay in touch would be for your mental health, not hers.

选择不去交流，可能对你的精神健康有益，而不对她有益。

No one can "fix" Terrie until she admits she has a problem, and she doesn't seem ready.

没人能修正Terrie的人生，除非她能正视自己的问题，而且现在看来，她好像还没有准备好。

Many who are bipolar self-medicate with alcohol and drugs, and there are treatmentprograms that address both disorders.

世界上有很多极端地使用酒精或毒品的人，而且现在也有许多针对这两种神经错乱的治疗方案。

If Terrie wants help, she should contact a university medical center department of psychiatryfor a referral.

如果Terrie需要帮助，我建议她联系大学医疗中心的心理科。