Quora精选：怎么知道一个人爱不爱你

Answered by Brinda Sarkar

Brinda Sarkar的回答：

My younger brother was an excellent cricket player and I... well not only was I lousy but I am also a girl. No other girls in the neighbourhood liked to play cricket and they were considered poor players too.

我的弟弟是一名优秀的板球手，但是我……额……不仅球打得烂，还是个女孩子。附近的女孩都不喜欢玩板球，男孩们也认为她们的板球技术很差。

Once all the boys would come to the park to play, the teams would get divided. Two captains would be chosen and they would one by one get to pick one player of their choice.

男生们每次去公园玩板球，都会兵分两队。首先选出两名队长，然后由队长轮流挑选自己的队员。

Now picking good players is the single most important factor to winning these games and given my poor skill set I should have been picked last of all. But whenever my brother became captain he would choose me before anyone else. Every time. Without worrying about winning or losing. All so I would not feel left out.

将优秀的队员纳入球队是赢得比赛最重要的一个因素，自知水平很差，我总觉得没人会主动选我。但事实是，只要我的弟弟当队长，他总会第一个选我。每次都是这样，丝毫不担心会影响到输赢 。这一切都是为了不让我觉得被冷落。

He never said it but I know he loved me.

他从未说出口，但我知道他爱我。

Answered by Rohit Nigam

Rohit Nigam的回答：

When I was about 10 years old, my father bought a number locking briefcase. I wanted to crack the number. It was easy, it was a combination of the numbers only, and I had plenty of time, so I started guessing from 000 to 999 (yeah!).

我十岁的时候，父亲买了一个带数字锁的公文包。我想要破解他的密码。这其实很简单，密码不过是一串数字组合，我可是有大把的时间。于是，我打算从000一直试到999（噢耶~！）。

Finally the briefcase opened at 081. I was like Yahoo!! ... and then moved on.

最终，在试到081的时候，公文包打开了，我高兴地欢呼起来！……回头就把这件事抛在脑后了。

My father is a reserved man. He would never come and hug/kiss me, push me away with a smile when I kiss him, but would have that caring look for me in his eyes.

我的父亲是一个内敛的男人，他从不主动拥抱我、亲吻我。当我亲他的时候，他会笑着推开我，可我总能从他的目光中看到对我的关爱。

I have an elder brother as well, born 1979.
I am born 1981.

我还有一个哥哥，1979年生。
而我出生在1981年。

81:-)

81 :-）

Answered by Nancy Clay

Nancy Clay的回答：

I took my 4 yo grandson to the park the other day. He was running, playing, happily meeting new friends. He suddenly stopped and was telling his new friend, "That's my grandma!" And proudly pointing me out as if I was something unusually special. He was proud of me! I am a very plain, ordinary person, but my grandson loves me so much that he believes I am special enough to show off to his new friends. I felt loved. Of course, in another 8 years, I'm sure I won't seem quite so special to my grandson, but I will enjoy being 'special' for the time being.

有一天，我带着四岁大的孙子去公园。他不停地奔跑，玩耍，开心地认识新朋友。突然，他停了下来，告诉他的朋友：“这是我奶奶。”说着还自豪地指着我，仿佛我时一个多么特别的大人物似的。他为我而感到骄傲！我只是一个普通人，但我的孙子却这么爱我，认为我非常特别，足以在新朋友面前炫耀一把。我感受到了被爱的幸福。当然，再过个8年，等他长大些，我在他眼里肯定不会还这么特殊、这么了不起，但这会儿，且让我享受这番“特殊待遇”吧。

Answered by Priyank Chauhan

Priyank Chauhan的回答

Specific to India.
It is really uncomfortable for the parents to say "I love you".

在印度，父母们不习惯开口说“我爱你”。

So instead they say things like, "Thoda aur khao"(Eat some more), "Gaadi dheere chalaana"(Drive your car/bike slow), "Jaldi so jaana "(sleep early) etc.
What they mean is "I love you and I care about you".

相应地，他们会说“多吃点”、“慢点开车”、“早点睡觉”等等，其实他们想表达的就是“我爱你，我关心你”。

Answered by Melissa Kwan

Melissa Kwan的回答：

When they are just happy you exist.

你的存在就是他们最大的幸福。