Quora精选：女朋友怪我没有为她挺身而出，我该怎么办？

Answered by George Graham

George Graham的回复：

Some time ago a friend of mine was drinking in a bar with his wife when she accidentally did the same as OPs girlfriend and spilled some drink on another girl.

前段时间我一个朋友和他妻子在酒吧喝东西，她也像题主的女友那样，不小心把饮料溅到了另一个女孩身上。

The girl she spilled the drink on went crazy and just like in OPs story the boyfriend appeared to see what was happening. My friend says his biggest mistake was not to just turn and leave immediately,instead he stepped between the boyfriend and his wife to try to de-escalate things. While he was talking to the boyfriend (who it turns out was pretty chill) the crazy girlfriend smashed a glass in his wifes face.

被溅到饮料的那女孩跟发疯了一样，就像题主经历的那样，她男友也出现了，来看看发生了什么事。我朋友说，他最大的错误在于没有马上转身离开，而是挡在那男友和自己妻子中间，企图平息纠纷。可在他跟男友（结果他倒是个冷静的人）说话的当儿，那疯女友把一只玻璃杯砸到了他妻子脸上。

The boyfriend dragged the crazy girlfriend away and my friend called for an ambulance and got his wife outside and began administering first aid.

那男友把疯女友拖开，我朋友则打电话叫了救护车，还把他妻子弄到外面，开始作急救处理。

As they waited for the ambulance to come, crazy girl appeared again having got away from her boyfriend, but this time she had a knife and went for my friends wife again. This time he had no choice but to stop her. Which he did very violently and very decisively.

就在他们等救护车的时候，疯女孩挣脱了她的男友再次现身，但这回她拿了把刀，又冲着我朋友的妻子来了。这次他没有别的选择，只能制止她，而且他下手很重很果断。

You see the thing is that he was a very big guy and an ex para who knew how to do things like that. But as he tells it, he felt responsible for the fact that because he hadn't immediately left with his wife when crazy girl started, there were now two women going to hospital and one of them going to jail. He blamed his own self confidence as he thought trouble would come from the boyfriend and he knew he could handle it. Because of that, he says, his wife was scarred for life.

你看，问题是他块头很大，又是名退役伞兵，知道该怎么对付这类情况。可据他说，他觉得要为酿成的后果负责，因为在那疯女孩开始发作时他没带着妻子马上离开，现在两个女人都得去医院，其中一个还要进监狱。他怪自己过于自信，以为麻烦会来自女孩的男友，而且自己能对付得了。他说就因为这个，他妻子留下了终身的创伤。

He says if he could do one thing differently that night it would have been to do what OP did and grab his wife and leave.

他说，如果能重新选择，那晚他会像题主那样，拉起妻子转身离开。

OP if your girlfriend has fantasies of you being some kind of superhero fighting bad guys over a perceived slight to her dignity then she clearly isn't living in the real world.

题主，如果你的女友把你幻想成某位超级英雄，她的尊严稍受亵渎，你就会去揍坏家伙一顿，那她显然不是活在现实世界里。

In the real world bar fights end up with victims like this:

在现实的世界中，但凡酒吧斗殴，收场时总少不了这样的受害者：

You did the right thing.

你做的是对的。