Quora精选：那些来自父亲让我铭记终身的话

Q: What is the best advice your father ever gave you?
问：父亲给过你最好的建议是什么？

1.
Do not be afraid to take advice from those who has tried something and failed. Do not take it from those who have never tried anything.

不要怕向尝试过却失败了的人请教，不要征求光说不做的人的建议。

2.
Whenever you feel down, take a bath. Shave. Put on your best clothes. And just. Be. Happy. You're pretending, of course, but that's the point. Pretend that you feel good. Act like you're on top of the situation. And you know what? Eventually you will be. It's all in your head, son.

失落时，去泡个澡，刮下胡子，穿上你最好的衣服。然后，高兴点！当然，你是在装高兴，但这就是问题的关键。假装你感觉不错，很有把握，你知道会怎么样吗？这一切终将成真。儿子，心境决定一切。

3.
Make sure you marry somebody you want your kids to act like.

确保你的另一半是你孩子的好榜样。

4.
Whatever you do in your life, just make sure you can face yourself in the mirror the next moment ... I will be proud of you if you always can.

无论你这辈子做了什么，只用确保下一刻你仍能面对镜中的自己。如果你能一直问心无愧，我会为你而自豪。

5.
"Your thoughts are limited by your vocabulary." My father told me when I was a teenager.

“你的思想受限于你的词汇。”这是我十几岁的时候，我爸爸对我说的。

That one line set me on the path to reading, building my vocabulary, falling in love with dictionaries, enjoying word-play, and attempting to write well and speak well. This expanded the horizons of my comprehension, and also gave me the ability to appreciate the refined, subtle thoughts written by others. There is a richness to the commentary of human experience that I would have missed out on had I not enjoyed reading and writing as much as I do.

这句话让我走上了阅读的道路，不断扩大我的词汇量，爱上字典，享受文字游戏的乐趣，锻炼自己的写作和演说能力。多亏这些，我的悟性提高了，得以欣赏别人笔下精炼而微妙的思想。如果我不像现在这么喜欢写作和阅读，可能会错过无数精彩独到的人生见解。

This path has been central to how, for better or for worse, my personality evolved in the last 20 years since that afternoon.

那个午后以来的20年中，不论好坏，这条路对塑造我的人格都十分重要。

6.
On alcohol: Never drink alone and never drink to finish.
On money: It doesn't matter how much you have, it matters how you earn it and how you spend it.
On pretense: Pretending to be someone else has two negatives - you attract people you don't like and you cannot attract people you would rather be around.
On lying: The fundamental problem with lying is that you need to keep track of all the lies and that gets burdensome. It is far easier to tell the truth.

关于饮酒：不要独饮，不要喝醉。
关于金钱：不在乎你有多少，关键是你怎么得来的，又是怎么花掉的。
关于伪装：伪装自己有两个坏处——一是你会招来你不喜欢的人，二是你吸引不到你想结识的人。
关于谎言：撒谎最根本的问题在于，你需要时刻记得自己撒了什么谎，这是种精神负担。说真话就要轻松多了。