面对同龄的成功人士，如何放下内心的嫉妒?

　　Q: How can you overcome your envy of people who are your age but are far more successful than you?

　　问：面对同龄的成功人士，如何放下内心的嫉妒?

　　Answered by Matthew Manning

　　Matthew Manning的回复：

　　Emphatically stop giving a shit.

　　千万别放在心上。

　　1.You have ZERO idea what their personal lives are actually like, or if their outward appearance of success is total bullshit.

　　你根本不知道他们的私人生活实际上是什么样的，或者他们是不是只是表面上光鲜。

　　2.Stop focusing outward, focus inward. A preoccupation with the success of others is taking time away from tending your own internal garden.

　　不要只关注外表，要关注内在。执着于他人的成功是在浪费建立自己内心世界的时间。

　　3.Believing in common measures of success (money, position, family) is believing in a ready-made lunch box of meaning that society is opening up and shoving down your throat. WHO CARES. Figure out what success is for yourself and then just focus on pursuing that.

　　大众所信奉的成功标准(金钱、地位、美满的家庭)，就像是一盒现成的便当，社会打开了它，然后强迫你吞下去。谁在乎呢!弄清楚对你自己来说什么叫成功，然后专注地去追求它。

　　4.You are in your 20s, so be prepared to witness some epic personal collapses of those whom you are currently envious of.

　　你才20来岁，你现在嫉妒的人，以后也可能会遭遇巨大的失败，走着瞧好了。

　　5.You can't do anything besides what you can do. If you're giving it your all and staying focused on your values, then your life is progressing exactly as it should be. Did you hear that? EXACTLY AS IT SHOULD BE.

　　你做不到的事强求不来。如果你能全身心投入到你力所能及的事情里，并始终关注自己的价值，你的生活自会向它应走的方向前行。听到没?按照它应走的方向!

　　6.When you have an episode of crippling self-doubt, picture each doubt as a single sheet of paper. Then crunch all of them together and throw them into the toilet of your mind. Now angrily kick-flush that toilet with your foot.

　　当你深深地怀疑自己时，把你的怀疑想象成一张张纸，然后绞碎它们并扔到你精神世界的马桶中。现在用脚奋力一踩，把它们全部冲走。

　　7.Actively work to express gratitude for what you do have every morning. The happiest people I know are full of gratitude, and they are profoundly in touch with their innate talents.

　　每天早上都要积极地工作来感激你所拥有的一切。我所认识的最快乐的人，内心都充满了感激之情，他们都与自己的天赋深切相通。

　　8.Before you read number nine, think of at least one person who thinks you're awesome. Try to think of yourself as that person does.

　　在读第9条之前，想想看在谁眼里你是一个很棒的人。试着用那个人的角度看待自己。

　　9.Isn't the universe so vast, so deep, so incredibly amazing? Who could possibly worry about a 3200 dollar difference in salary when there are stars supernova-ing right this very minute?

　　宇宙是如此广阔、如此深邃、如此璀璨惊人。就在此时此刻都有超新星在爆发，为什么还要去为3200刀的薪水差异烦恼呢?

　　10.It's a marathon, not a sprint. Near the finish line, you'll realize you've only been racing against yourself.

　　这是一场马拉松，不是短跑比赛。当快到达终点的时候，你就会意识到你只是和自己在赛跑而已。