TED演讲-口语练习：如何克服社交不适

在TED演讲节目中，演讲者清晰的口语表达及其内容的写作手法都是值得我们学习借鉴的。在本期的TED演讲中，演讲者将通过举例讲述如何克服社交不适。请结合视频内容，开始口语练习吧！

原文及翻译

In uncomfortable social interactions, we often don't have a social script of what to do. Instead of telling people what we really think, and what we really feel, we do the "nice" thing, which makes us incredibly uncomfortable. Having over-the-top positive, "nice" feedback can harm your performance. It can make it very difficult for you to climb up, difficult to kind of know where you stand, what you should do better, what you should stop doing. 

在令人不快的社交互动中，我们通常没有社交脚本来指导我们该做什么。我们不会告诉别人我们真正的想法和感受，而是做“好”的事情，这让我们感到非常不舒服。过于积极、“好”的反馈可能会损害你的表现。它会让你很难晋升，很难知道你处于什么位置，你应该做得更好，你应该停止做什么。

So, I think we have to then think about what is the solution to this problem. Is it the case that we should all just be meaner to each other in an effort to be more direct? I don't think that's the case at all. What I like to do is ask people, "Can I give you feedback on a couple of dimensions? Can we think about feedback as general versus specific? Can we think about things that you're doing well, you should keep doing, versus things that, please stop?" 

所以，我认为我们必须考虑这个问题的解决方案是什么。我们是不是都应该为了更直接而对彼此更刻薄？我认为根本不是这样。我喜欢问人们，“我可以从几个方面给你反馈吗？我们可以把反馈看作一般的还是具体的？我们可以想想你做得好的事情，你应该继续做，而不是那些，请停止的事情吗？”

We know from our personal lives that replacing negative, critical, "please stop" behaviors is absolutely essential. You need to start neutral. And by neutral, I mean things that are not scary to hear critical feedback on. You might be thinking to yourself, "Well, what's some neutral feedback that you could give me at the end of my talk?" How about, "I would switch the order of the points on your talk," or "I would change the font." 

从我们的个人生活中我们知道，取代消极的、批评的“请停止”行为是绝对必要的。你需要从中立开始。中立的意思是听到批评性反馈并不可怕。你可能会想，“那么，在我演讲结束时，你能给我什么中立的反馈呢？”比如说，“我会改变你演讲要点的顺序”，或者“我会改变字体”。

These types of feedback are specific and so they're useful, but they're not scary to deliver, and they're not actually scary to receive. And what we find is that when people take these baby steps to work up to this type of feedback, they are much less anxious in the delivery.

这些类型的反馈是具体的，所以很有用，但传达它们并不可怕，接受它们实际上也不可怕。我们发现，当人们采取这些小步骤来准备这种反馈时，他们在传达时就不会那么焦虑了。

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