美国男歌手亚瑟在抚养1型糖尿病孩子时谈到了共同抚养:“这非常复杂”

When Usher and ex-wife Tameka Foster found out that their eldest child Usher Raymond V, 15, had Type 1 diabetes years ago, it changed everything. 

当亚瑟和前妻塔梅卡·福斯特几年前发现他们15岁的大孩子亚瑟·雷蒙德五世患有1型糖尿病时，一切都改变了。

“From the moment that Type 1 diabetes was a conversation, it was a re-acclimation to life. The life that we knew changed,” the Grammy winner, 45, says of the chronic condition in which the pancreas fails to produce sufficient insulin for the body, often requiring insulin injections to help maintain normal blood sugar levels. 

“从1型糖尿病成为话题的那一刻起，这就是对生活的重新适应。我们所熟悉的生活改变了，”这位45岁的格莱美奖得主谈到胰腺无法为身体产生足够胰岛素的慢性疾病时说，通常需要注射胰岛素来维持正常的血糖水平。

“It comes with a great deal of consideration and commitment in itself because we’re all managing to make certain that my child makes the right decisions to have a happy, healthy life," he explained.

他解释说:“这本身就需要大量的考虑和承诺，因为我们都在努力确保我的孩子做出正确的决定，过上幸福、健康的生活。”

Staying on top of the disease takes teamwork between Raymond and Foster, who divorced in 2009, and the star admits that it’s something they work hard at. 

雷蒙德和福斯特在2009年离婚，他们需要合作才能战胜这种疾病，这位明星承认这是他们努力工作的结果。

“The breeding ground of disaster is lack of communication,” he says. “You honestly have to find the means and the ability to have mutual parties.” For him and Foster, “our [kid's] endocrinologist is a mutual ground.” 

“灾难的滋生地是缺乏沟通，”他说。“老实说，你必须找到建立共同政党的方法和能力。”对他和福斯特来说，“我们孩子的内分泌专家是一个共同的基础。”

Still, says the star, “It’s been a task. It is very complicated because kids, by the way, will find a way to work you against each other. You have to be mindful of what you say and that they’re always listening and greater than that. They’re always watching.” 

不过，这位明星说:“这是一项艰巨的任务。这是非常复杂的，因为孩子们，顺便说一下，会找到一种方法让你们彼此对抗。你必须注意你说的话，他们总是在听，而且不止于此。他们总是在看。”

What has worked best for him and Foster, with whom he also shares son Naviyd Eli Raymond, 14, is trying to have understanding. “Her experience is what it is. My experience is what it is, and if we can find somewhere to meet in the middle to make the right decisions and also to be mindful of each other or at least sensitive to the things that matter to both parties, then that’s hopefully success for everybody.” 

他和福斯特还有一个儿子，14岁的纳维德·伊莱·雷蒙德。对他们来说，最有效的方法是试着相互理解。“她的经历就是这样。我的经验就是这样，如果我们能找到一个折中的地方，做出正确的决定，同时也要关心彼此，或者至少对双方都重要的事情保持敏感，那么对每个人来说都有希望成功。”

Usher recently partnered with Sanofi's One Pledge Challenge, to get the word out about early detection of Type 1 diabetes, something he wished he was aware of years ago. “If I had honestly prepared myself better, I would’ve appreciated it,” he says.

亚瑟最近与赛诺菲的One Pledge Challenge合作，宣传1型糖尿病的早期检测，这是他多年前就希望知道的事情。他说:“如果我真的准备得更好，我会很感激的。”

After years of helping his child navigate life with the disorder, he’s made finding normalcy a priority: “It doesn’t have to be a life vacant of fun or experience and the excitement of just being a careless young person.”

多年来，他一直在帮助他的孩子度过这种障碍的生活，现在他把找回正常生活作为首要任务:“这并不一定是一种没有乐趣或经验的生活，也不一定是一个无忧无虑的年轻人的兴奋。”

And even though Usher is gearing up to headline the 2024 Super Bowl Halftime Show in February, he still faces the same challenge as any parent of teens does. 

尽管亚瑟正准备在2月份的2024年超级碗中场秀上担任主角，但他仍然面临着与任何青少年父母一样的挑战。

“Am I cool to them?” the star says with a laugh. “I think I’m really cool to my 2 and 3 year old [Sire Castrello and Sovereign Bo, with longtime girlfriend Jenn Goicoechea]. They don’t know any better. But my almost 16 and almost 15 year olds, they may think I’m not. They’ll say ‘You need to update this’ or ‘You could be doing this.' I’m trying to make certain I stay cool to them.” 

“我对他们酷吗?”这位明星笑着说。“我觉得我对我2岁和3岁的孩子(Sire Castrello和Sovereign Bo，还有交往多年的女友Jenn Goicoechea)真的很酷。他们什么都不懂。但我16岁和15岁的孩子们，他们可能认为我不是。他们会说'你需要更新这个'或者'你可以这样做'我想确保自己对他们保持冷静。”

Most importantly, adds Usher, “Dad life is everything. I live for my children. I’ve seen every first step and I’ve missed a few firsts as a result of my commitment to entertainment. But it’s a sacrifice. I just hope that they see me as the dad that I didn’t have. I’m a father that’s 100 percent about my family.” 

最重要的是，亚瑟补充道:“爸爸的生活就是一切。我为我的孩子而活。我见证了每一个人的第一步，也因为沉迷于娱乐而错过了一些第一步。但这是一种牺牲。我只希望他们能把我当成我失去的父亲。我是一个百分百关心家庭的父亲。”