我必须首先付出和爱的人，是自己

I used to believe that love meant putting everyone else and their needs first, before my own. While I do think there is some truth to that, in the sense that being a giving person is one of the ultimate acts of being a loving person, I came to realize that I must give to and love myself first and foremost.

我曾经相信，爱意味着把别人和他们的需求放在首位，而不是我自己的需求。虽然我确实认为这是有一定道理的，因为作为一个付出的人是成为一个有爱心的人的终极行为之一，但我开始意识到，我必须首先付出和爱的人，是自己。

Here's why:

原因如下:

When you put everyone and everything else above you, you are no longer valuing yourself and your needs. And when you are not meeting your needs, and you don't take care of yourself (emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually), you can't be the best version of yourself to the special people in your life. So in essence, you don't love them at your full potential!

当你把所有人和事都放在你之上时，你就不再重视自己和自己的需求了。当你不能满足自己的需求，你不能照顾好自己(情感上，身体上，精神上，精神上)，你就不能在你生命中那些特殊的人面前做最好的自己。所以，本质上，你并没有完全发挥你的潜力去爱他们!

Here are some things to consider —

这里有一些事情需要考虑

1. Are you physically taking care of yourself? Do you nourish yourself with the right foods, get enough sleep, exercise, are at a healthy weight, and on top of your check-ups? If not, I bet your energy is low, you're tired and stressed, and your confidence isn't the highest (because you probably don't feel your best). Now think about how much more you could give to others when you aren't exhausted, you're happy with what you see in the mirror, and you aren't on edge with stress.

1. 你在身体上照顾好自己了吗?你是否用正确的食物来滋养自己，获得足够的睡眠，锻炼身体，保持健康的体重，并且在保证体检的基础之上?如果没有，我敢打赌你的能量很低，你很累，压力很大，你的信心也不是最高的(因为你可能感觉不是最好的)。现在想想，当你不疲惫，你对自己在镜子里看到的感到高兴，你不会因为压力而感到紧张时，你能给别人多少。

2. Are you emotionally and mentally healthy? As humans, we're so complex and having ups and downs is normal. But in general, assess where you stand emotionally. If it's in a healthy place and you can manage your emotions in a healthy way — great! But if you self-soothe in destructive ways and have a negative attitude and energy about you, realize that it's not just affecting you, but others too. When you aren't an emotionally and mentally healthy person, that energy pours into everything you do, and everyone you're around will feel the effects, too.

2. 你的情绪和心理健康吗?作为人类，我们是如此复杂，有起有落是正常的。但总的来说，要从情感上评估自己的立场。如果它在一个健康的地方，你可以用一种健康的方式管理你的情绪——太好了!但是，如果你以破坏性的方式自我安慰，对自己有消极的态度和精力，要意识到这不仅影响到你，也影响到其他人。当你的情绪和心理都不健康时，你所做的每件事都会充满能量，你身边的每一个人也会受到影响。

3. How's your spirituality? In this sense, spirituality is about having an ultimate purpose and being in tune with your true self. Do you wake up every day excited for what your life is about, and have gratitude for all the abundance you already have? If not, you may not be listening and living to what your heart truly desires. Living this way long term, may affect the essence of your inner being and, in turn, may not allow you to show up your very best for the world.

3.你的精神如何?从这个意义上说，灵性就是拥有一个终极目标，并与真实的自我保持一致。你是否每天醒来都为你的生活感到兴奋，并对你已经拥有的一切心存感激?如果没有，你可能就没有用心去倾听和生活。长期这样生活，可能会影响你内在的本质，反过来，也可能不允许你向世界展示你最好的一面。

Be kind to yourself. It can be difficult to put your health and wellbeing first when life is demanding between your career, family, friendships, relationships, and so on. If you can think of any ways to improve your wellbeing and love yourself more, start today! Take a baby step towards this. Perhaps try getting an hour more of sleep. Move your body in a way that feels good. Take time for yourself to be with your thoughts and without distractions and feel that peace.

善待自己。当生活要求你在事业、家庭、友谊、人际关系等方面兼顾时，你很难把健康和幸福放在首位。如果你能想出任何方法来改善你的幸福和更爱自己，从今天开始!朝着这个目标迈出一小步。也许试着多睡一个小时。以一种感觉良好的方式运动你的身体。花点时间让你自己和你的思想在一起，不受干扰的，感受那种平静。