是时候请家教了?

是时候请家教了?

It’s easy to miss clues that your child needs academic assistance, and kids are often reluctant to discuss their struggles, making it more difficult to determine when a tutor may be an asset.
你很容易忽略孩子需要学习帮助的线索，而孩子们往往不愿意讨论他们的困难，这使得确定家教何时可能成为一项资产变得更加困难。

“If your child is secretive about their grades, resists help with homework and gives you vague answers to questions about school, these are red flags,” says Beverly Hills, Calif.-based psychiatrist Carole Lieberman, who treats children and families dealing with academic challenges.

“如果你的孩子对自己的成绩遮遮掩掩，拒绝帮助做家庭作业，对学校的问题回答含糊不清，这些都是危险信号，”加州比弗利山庄的精神病学家卡罗尔·利伯曼(Carole Lieberman)说，他帮助孩子和家庭应对学业上的挑战。

However, determining that your child needs a tutor is only the beginning. Once that’s been decided, parents must weigh the options and figure out which type of tutor is best to address their child’s needs.

然而，确定你的孩子需要家教只是一个开始。一旦决定了这一点，家长们就必须权衡各种选择，并找出哪种类型的家教最能满足孩子的需求。

There are three tutoring methods: one-on-one (private or franchise-based), online and group. Children respond to each approach differently, so you may need to experiment to find what works best.

有三种辅导方法:一对一(私人或特许)，在线和小组。孩子们对每一种方法的反应都不一样，所以你可能需要实验来找出最有效的方法。

David Jones, who teaches algebra, biology, English and geometry, works independently and through HeyTutor.com, which connects students with academic assistance.

教代数、生物学、英语和几何的戴维•琼斯(David Jones)通过HeyTutor.com独立工作，该网站将学生与学术援助联系起来。

Jones believes chemistry and empathy are as critical as expertise.

琼斯认为，化学反应和同理心和专业知识一样重要。

“The biggest challenge for my students is attitude, not aptitude. The idea that ‘math sucks’ or they aren’t good at it is prevalent and powerful. I challenge these notions. I felt that way when I was in middle school,” says Jones. Such thinking can be debilitating, he says, but it can be overcome.

“对我的学生来说，最大的挑战是态度，而不是天资。“数学很烂”或“数学不好”的观点很普遍，也很有影响力。我对这些观念提出质疑。我上中学的时候就有这种感觉，”琼斯说。他说，这样的想法可能会使人衰弱，但它是可以克服的。

Jones has been tutoring Atlanta sixth-grader Jack Jenkins most weekdays this school year.

本学年的大部分工作日，琼斯都在辅导亚特兰大六年级学生杰克·詹金斯。

“At first, I wasn’t excited about having a tutor, but I like David,” says Jack. “He cares about me and wants me to do well. I know that school is important, and that I need to do well if I want to have a good future. David has helped me keep up with my work and tests.”

杰克说:“一开始，我对请家教并不感兴趣，但我喜欢大卫。”“他关心我，希望我做得好。我知道学校很重要，如果我想有一个美好的未来，我需要做好。大卫帮助我跟上工作和考试的节奏。”

Jack’s parents, Jo and Michelle Jenkins, are impressed.

杰克的父母乔和米歇尔·詹金斯对此印象深刻。

“David has done amazing work with our son, who has ADHD and has really struggled,” says Jo. “David’s understanding of ADHD has helped Jack respect and trust him. The result has been improved study habits and an overall increase in grades.”

“大卫和我们的儿子做了很棒的工作，他患有多动症，一直在努力，”乔说。大卫对多动症的理解帮助杰克尊重和信任他。结果是改善了学习习惯，整体成绩提高了。”

For some, there may be a stigma attached to needing a tutor, but Jones says that even gifted students struggle. Hiring help is not necessarily an indication that a child is less capable.

对一些人来说，找家教可能是一种耻辱，但琼斯说，即使是有天赋的学生也很难做到这一点。雇佣帮手并不一定意味着孩子的能力较差。

“Their self-worth is tied to academic success and praise. Kids argue or shut down when faced with a challenge. I have to be sensitive to this, while not cutting them slack and falling short of my obligation as a tutor,” Jones explains.

“他们的自我价值与学业成功和表扬紧密相连。当面临挑战时，孩子们会争吵或闭嘴。我必须对这一点保持敏感，同时不能松懈，不能辜负我作为一名导师的职责，”琼斯解释道。