实用英语口语：别人家的孩子

实用英语口语：别人家的孩子 英文版

“There is an enemy against me called ‘other people's child’ since I was a child. He never plays games, never goes shopping and all he knows is nothing but studying. He is good-looking, obedient and docile and his parents never need to worry about him……I’m always the worst kid in my mom’s eye and she even anxiously wants the ‘other people's child’ to replace me as her child……” This is a post on Internet called “Other People's Child”, presenting Internet users with same experiences that stimulate emotion. Most people said that they hate this intangible opponent, who forced them into constant comparisons.

Does this “comparative-style” family education really work for children? In fact, this kind of education can only causes three results: the first result is that it works; the second one is that it doesn’t work; the last one is that this can easily result in sense of inferiority and disobedience. As a matter of fact, while parents do compare their children with other children, it’s actually a result of parents’ keeping up with the Joneses. On the contrary, parents should let their children compare with themselves rather other children. Besides, it would be better for parents to make compliment and approval of merits of their children first, and then analyze merits of other children objectively and finally give advice about how to learn from others. By doing so, children will be much more easily to accept psychologically, which would avoid causing negative emotions such as sense of inferiority and disobedience.

实用英语口语：别人家的孩子 中文版

“从小我就有个宿敌叫‘别人家的孩子’。这个孩子从来不玩游戏，不喜欢逛街，天天就知道学习。长得好看，又听话又温顺，回回年级第一，不让人操心……我在我妈嘴里是最差劲的，她恨不得生的是‘别人家的孩子’……”这是网络上一篇名为《别人家的孩子》的帖子，引发了众多网友的共鸣。多数网友表示恨透了这个虚幻的攀比对象。

这样“比较式”的家庭教育，对孩子来说有效果吗?其实，这种教育方式，只会产生三种可能，一种是有效果，一种是听了和没听一样，还有一种是容易使孩子更加自卑和叛逆。事实上，父母将自己的孩子与别人的孩子进行比较时，大部分都是父母的攀比心在作怪。父母应该让孩子更多的“和自己比”，而不是“和别人比”。此外，最好先对自己的孩子表现好的方面给予表扬和肯定，然后再客观分析别的孩子表现比较好的方面，之后才在此基础上建议孩子如何学习别人的长处，这样孩子的心理会更容易接受而不至于产生自卑或者叛逆等消极情绪。