从今天开始，如何让你的家人帮忙做家务

从今天开始，如何让你的家人帮忙做家务

With most states ordering Americans to stay at home in compliance with social distancing, household labor might be piling up faster than you can handle.

随着大多数州命令美国人留在家里，以保持社会距离，家务劳动可能堆积得比你能处理得快。

There are more dirty dishes, more trash, and more areas of the house to organize and keep sanitized.

家里有更多的脏盘子，更多的垃圾，还有更多的地方需要整理和保持卫生。

"Many families are now spending a lot more time at home, I think it will [be] difficult not to see the visible and invisible labor [required] to just run a household. And then on top of that, you're both trying to do your work," said Brigid Schulte, author of "Overwhelmed: How to Work, Love and Play When No One Has the Time."

“许多家庭现在在家里花更多的时间，我认为很难不看到仅仅经营一个家庭所需要的有形和无形的劳动。“除此之外，你们都在努力工作，”《不堪重负:如何在没人有时间的时候工作、恋爱和玩乐》一书的作者布里吉德·舒尔特说。

"And then you're both trying to manage children because schools are closed and childcare centers are closed, and babysitters are also home and quarantining," said Schulte, who's also director of The Better Life Lab, which provides research and reporting on work-life and family culture.

舒尔特同时也是“美好生活实验室”的负责人，该实验室提供有关工作生活和家庭文化的研究和报告，他说：“然后你们都在努力管理孩子，因为学校关闭，托儿中心关闭，保姆也在家里隔离。”。

"So we're really in a completely new space, as challenging and difficult as it is."

“所以我们真的处在一个全新的环境中，尽管它充满挑战和困难。”

It can be frustrating to need more help from your partner and kids but not receive it. There are ways everyone can chip in to foster a cleaner, happier and healthier home.

从你的伴侣和孩子那里需要更多的帮助，但却得不到，这是令人沮丧的。每个人都可以通过一些方式来营造一个更清洁、更幸福、更健康的家。

Before the outbreak, Gisel Smith, a primary school teacher in Marietta, Georgia, felt as if she had everything under control. For her three boys, she managed chores, mealtimes and everything else.

疫情爆发前，乔治亚州玛丽埃塔的小学教师吉赛尔·史密斯觉得一切都在掌控之中。对于她的三个儿子，她负责家务、吃饭时间和其他一切事情。

"Now, I feel that those responsibilities -- everybody has to take a little bit of it. Someone has to cook, someone has to clean," she said.

“现在，我觉得这些责任——每个人都应该承担一点。总得有人做饭，总得有人打扫，”她说。

Smith was typically the one responsible for dinner, and her husband would help by taking their three boys, ages 5. 8 and 14. on a walk around the neighborhood so she could focus on cooking. But now, with her husband's remote work trickling over into evening hours, she doesn't have that time.

史密斯通常是负责晚餐的人，她的丈夫会带着他们的三个儿子(5岁、8岁和14岁)在附近散步，这样她就可以专心做饭。但现在，由于丈夫的远程工作一直拖到晚上，她没有那么多时间。

Smith and her husband have started meeting regularly to discuss what's working for them and small details they could improve upon. For example, her husband might make up for the lack of an evening walk by cleaning the kitchen afterward.

史密斯和她的丈夫已经开始定期开会，讨论什么对他们有用，以及他们可以改进的小细节。例如，她的丈夫可能会在晚饭后打扫厨房来弥补晚上没有散步。

The boys have stepped up, too. A chore sheet the family has on a common area door helps, and the boys can mark the tasks they complete in whichever order they want.

男孩子们也已经进步了。在公共区域的门上放一张家庭杂务表会有帮助，男孩们可以按他们想要的顺序标记他们完成的任务。

"Really what has been very helpful for us as a family is to have their chores printed, so they know what to expect, and we don't have to be nagging at them," Smith said.

史密斯说:“对我们整个家庭来说，真正有帮助的是把他们的家务打印出来，这样他们就知道会发生什么，而我们就不必对他们唠唠叨叨了。”

"We talk a lot about how their decisions affect us," she added. "If I decide to not get up one day, it's going to affect everybody. If my husband decides to not clean the garage, it's going to affect everybody.

“我们经常谈论他们的决定如何影响我们，”她补充道。“如果有一天我决定不起床，这会影响到所有人。如果我丈夫决定不打扫车库，那会影响到每个人的。

"We tell them often, 'This house is yours, you take care of it. We are responsible, and we have to be good stewards of what God has provided to us and take care of it.'"

“我们经常告诉他们，‘这房子是你们的，你们来管它。我们有责任，我们必须做好上帝所赐予我们的，照顾好它。’”

Instilling this value system of collectiveness has primed their kids to jump in when they see they're needed.

灌输这种集体主义的价值体系，使他们的孩子在看到自己被需要时，就会投入其中。