当你陷入困境时如何前进

当你陷入困境时如何前进

If you want to know what a rut really is like, check out the films that stick in your mind. At some stage, the stars are stuck in a rut: Ferris Beuller, Luke Skywalker and Jennifer in Dirty Dancing. And since I love Disney, poor old Rapunzel is seriously trapped, and we aren’t talking about the tower and the evil step mum.

如果你想知道墨守成规到底是什么样子，那就去看看那些在你脑海中挥之不去的电影吧。在某些阶段，明星们陷入了困境:费里斯·比勒、卢克·天行者和《辣身舞》中的詹妮弗。因为我喜欢迪斯尼，可怜的老莴苣姑娘被严重地困住了，我们不是在谈论塔和邪恶的继母。

Only to be at home tucked up doing what you usually do, slowly losing that sense of can do that was so alive in you as you left the movies.

只是为了蜷缩在家里做你平时做的事，慢慢地失去了那种你离开电影院时还能做的感觉。

So how do you hang on to the motivation to change and how do you make it happen ensuring you never languish there ever again?

那么，你如何保持改变的动力，如何让它发生，确保你永远不会再萎靡不振?

1. Talk about What You’re Going Through

谈谈你的经历

Giving yourself permission to talk is very important. We are taught in 21st century life to not moan, to look for the positive, to be happy. Sometimes, it’s important to really process the other side of this. In doing this, you can really understand what is happening.

允许自己说话是非常重要的。在21世纪的生活中，我们被教导不要抱怨，要寻找积极的一面，要快乐。有时候，真正处理这个问题的另一面是很重要的。通过这样做，你可以真正理解正在发生的事情。

2. Build Yourself the Right Network

建立正确的人际网络

Network is your net worth. This has been a powerful phrase for me this year and resonates with so many. If you find that you get stuck in a rut or struggle to escape one, have a look around you. The people you work with, socialize with, even listen to on the radio or share your life with on your phone are all part of your network. And we worryingly seem to forget the value of this.

人脉就是你的净资产。这句话对我来说是今年最有力的一句话，也引起了很多人的共鸣。如果你发现自己陷入了陈规或挣扎着要摆脱陈规，看看你的周围。那些和你一起工作、一起社交、甚至一起听收音机、一起用手机分享生活的人都是你人际网络的一部分。令人担忧的是，我们似乎忘记了它的价值。

If your network doesn’t feel good for you, then change it. No one needs to know.

如果你的人际网络让你感觉不好，那就改变它。不必告诉任何人。

We can choose to control who is in our life physically and metaphorically, and that can drastically impact on our ability to get out of the ruts that come up in life.

我们可以选择控制谁在我们的生活中，无论是身体上还是精神上，这都会极大地影响我们摆脱生活中出现的陈规陋习的能力。

The right people in your network do the very opposite, they are like the critical eureka moment in our favourite films where our stars realize what they can achieve.

正确的人在你的人际网络中做的恰恰相反，他们就像我们最喜欢的电影中的关键尤里卡时刻，我们的明星意识到他们可以实现什么。

3. Don’t Be Too Peoply

别太过分了

People that try to enslave you to their thinking aren’t good for you.

那些试图奴役你的人对你没有好处。

Ask yourself when life feels too peoply and you need a new perspective to move forward, what would be on your must do now list? A walk on the beach? Pottering in the garden? Baking a cake? Painting your nails? Daydreaming on YouTube? Reading a book? Even playing a pointless time-wasting game on your phone can be good.

问问自己，当生活变得太充实，你需要一个新的视角来前进时，你现在必须做的事情是什么?在沙滩上散步?在花园里干活?烤一个蛋糕吗?画你的指甲吗?在YouTube上做白日梦吗?读一本书吗?甚至在你的手机上玩一个毫无意义的浪费时间的游戏也是有好处的。

With all of these actions, your brain is given a bit of space to process what you’ve been working on. So when you feel stuck what will your go to action be?

有了所有这些动作，你的大脑就有了一点空间来处理你正在做的事情。那么，当你感到困惑时，你会采取什么行动呢?

And please note, working on it some more, is not going to work!

请注意，一味地多做一些，是行不通的!

4. Plan in a Way That Works for You

以适合自己的方式计划

If you want to steer clear of a rut, you need to always plan. I like fluid plans, if I have a goal that I can visualize, I’m happy.

如果你想避免墨守成规，你需要时刻做好计划。我喜欢流动的计划，如果我有一个目标，我可以想象，我很高兴。

I don’t need to plan every action. I’ve learned (the hard way!) that if I plan every finite action, it doesn’t work for me; while some people like everything listed down to details of what they are doing on what day of the week. I have friends that like Excel spreadsheets. Friends that like colourful mind maps. And friends that like mood boards or lists.

我不需要计划每一个行动。我已经认识到(艰难的道路!)如果我计划每一个有限的行动，它并不适合我;而有些人则喜欢把每件事都列出来，详细说明他们在一周中的哪一天在做什么。我有喜欢Excel电子表格的朋友。喜欢彩色思维导图的朋友以及喜欢情绪板或列表的朋友。

5. Don’t Plan Alone

不要一个人计划

Another reason a rut is so tough is because we try and fix it on our own. We think it’s the right thing to do, however the 21st Century is teaching us that personally and professionally, we achieve more, are happier, and less stressed if we open up.

墨守成规之所以如此艰难的另一个原因是，我们试图靠自己来解决它。我们认为这是一件正确的事情，然而21世纪教会了我们，从个人和专业的角度来说，如果我们敞开心扉，我们会获得更多、更快乐、压力更小。

6. Be Aware of Your Perceptions

注意你的感知

There is a very good reason why a 2 hour conversation with me can completely change the way someone feels about their life, and who they are and it is down to perceptions.

和我聊上两个小时，就能完全改变一个人对生活的看法，改变他是谁，这是有原因的，这取决于他的认知。

7. Practice Gratitude

练习感恩

emember positivity is a great place to start when you want to change something in your life. Blind positivity is not much use, but positivity based on facts is.

当你想要改变生活中的某些事情时，积极是一个很好的起点。盲目的积极性是没有用的，但基于事实的积极性是有用的。