避免与孩子对抗，建成比较好的教育

Outside of the obvious abusive type of parenting, there are some types you will want to avoid when raising a child.

除了明显的虐待型的教育方式以外，在你养孩子的时候，也需要避免其他一些教育方式。

Neglectful parenting is a very harmful type of parenting and even falls under abuse. It is a harmful type because the child has no basis for developing healthy relationships. However, it sometimes is not as easy to recognize as other forms of abuse. Some signs of neglectful parenting are as follows:

忽略型的教育方式是一种非常有害的教育类型，甚至比虐待更严重。这是一种有害的类型是因为，孩子没有建立健康关系的基础。然而，这种类型有时候比其他类型的虐待更加不容易辨认出来。一些忽略型的教育方式如下：

Neglecting physical, emotional, and other needs of a child.

忽略孩子身体，感情和其他方面的需要。

Inability to connect with a child in any way.

没有能力与孩子在任何方面建立联系。

Lack of interest in child’s activities, friendships, and schooling.

对孩子的活动，友谊和学校教育缺乏兴趣。

Leaving a child alone for long periods of time.

长时间让孩子独处。

Permissive parenting may not seem like it would be a harmful type of parenting because the parents are highly loving and supportive of their child. The harmful part of this type of parenting is the fact that there are little to no boundaries, and if there are boundaries, they are inconsistent.

宽容型的教育方式或许不像是一种有害的类型，因为家长非常溺爱和支持他们的孩子。这种类型的教育方式，有害的一方面就是，父母的宽容没有极限，如果有极限的话，那就是前后矛盾的。

Children will grow up with no empathy, little self-discipline, and self-control, be self-centered, have no respect for rules or authority, and the inability to understand consequences. Some signs of this type of parenting are:

孩子会逐渐发育成没有同理心，自律和自控能力差，而且非常自私的人，而且会不尊重法规或者权威，没有能力理解后果。这种类型的教育方式的一些迹象：

Little to no rules that are inconsistent or constantly changing.

完全不管规则，前后不一致或者不断改变。

Avoidance of confrontation with a child.

避免与孩子对抗。

The desire to be child’s best friend or good friend.

做孩子最好的朋友或者好朋友的愿望。

Authoritarian parenting is considered to be a highly demanding parenting style. There usually is not open communication between parent and child, and the expectations can be unreasonable. As the child grows, they will develop low self-esteem, fear of authority, little social skills, and possibly rebellion or disobedience outside of parental influence. Some signs of authoritarian parenting are:

专制型教育方式是一种高度严格要求的一种家长制。家长和孩子之间往往没有开放式的沟通，而且家长的期望可能市不切实际的。随着孩子的成长，他们会发育成一种自尊心低，畏惧权威，缺乏社会技能的人，而且可能会叛逆，或者不受父母之外任何人的管束。专制型教育方式的一些迹象：

• Strict rules that must be followed no matter what.
• 无论如何都必须遵守的严格规定。
• The child has little to no say in their decision making at any age.
• 孩子在任何年龄阶段在他们的决定方面都没有发言权。
• Punishments administered rather than consequences.
• 用惩罚来管理孩子，而不是让孩子承担后果。
• Little emotional connection with a child.
• 与孩子的感情关系淡薄。