“在我用‘我们’的钱帮助我的狗之后，我的未婚妻就不和我说话了。”

“在我用‘我们’的钱帮助我的狗之后，我的未婚妻就不和我说话了。”

Dogs are friendly, affectionate, but, most importantly, loyal. They’re willing to do everything for their humans. So, it’s only fair we do everything in our power to take care of them, right? Well, one woman doesn’t think so. When Reddit user Unsurebigbig spent $5,000 for his German Shepherd’s surgery, his fiancée went ballistic. You see, even though the money was his savings, it was also part of their wedding budget. The bride-to-be was furious that they’d have to downsize the ceremony for a 10-year-old dog, so she went into full ignore mode. Unable to figure out what to do, Unsurebigbig asked the internet for advice.

狗是友好的，深情的，但最重要的是，忠诚的。它们愿意为人类做任何事。所以，我们尽我们所能来照顾它们是公平的，对吧?一个女人可不这么认为。当Reddit用户Unsurebigbig花了5000美元为他的德国牧羊犬做手术时，他的未婚妻暴跳如雷。你看，虽然钱是他的积蓄，但也是他们婚礼预算的一部分。准新娘很生气，因为他们要为一只10岁的狗缩小婚礼的规模，所以她完全进入了无视模式。由于不知道该怎么办，Unsurebigbig向互联网寻求建议。

Image credits: Laura Nicola (not the actual photo)

According to a survey by the Associated Press and Petside.com, 14 percent of people would choose their pet over their significant other.

据美联社和宠物网站Petside.com的一项调查显示，14%的人会选择自己的宠物而不是另一半。

Unfortunately, the survey only asked, “who would you choose?” Another important question would have been “how in the world did it get to that point?”

不幸的是，调查只问了一个问题:“你会选谁?”另一个重要的问题是“它究竟是如何发展到那一步的?”

It’s critical to understand where the problem is coming from. Is it your significant other who has a problem with your dog (or the way you treat your dog?) or is it the other way around? Whether the problem is on the human or canine side, Josh Weiss-Roessler from Ceasar’s Way offers a few things that you can try:

理解问题从何而来至关重要。是你的另一半对你的狗有意见(或者你对待狗的方式?)还是相反?不管问题出在人身上还是狗身上，来自凯撒的Josh Weiss-Roessler都提供了一些你可以尝试的方法:

Have Play Dates. Give your spouse and your dog some time alone together. “You probably had them get to know your parents and friends in this way when you started to become more serious, right? Well, your dog may be even more important because they’re essentially a roommate that your spouse may have ‘married into.'”

安排约会让他们一起玩。给你的配偶和你的狗一些独处的时间。“当你开始认真对待你的父母和朋友时，你可能让他们以这种方式了解你的父母和朋友，对吗?”嗯，你的狗可能更重要，因为它们本质上是你的配偶可能‘嫁给’的室友。”

Set Ground Rules. Just because you and your dog have a routine, that doesn’t mean that your spouse is comfortable with all of it. “Sit down and have a discussion about the rules, boundaries, and limitations, so you’re both on the same page. Expressing a desire to not sleep with your dog when they’re sleeping with you is a completely reasonable expectation, for example, and if you adopt a ‘take it or leave it’ approach, the relationship (the human one) just isn’t going to last.”

制定基本规则。仅仅因为你和你的狗有一个固定的生活方式，并不意味着你的配偶对这一切都感到舒服。“坐下来讨论一下规则、界限和限制，这样你们就能达成共识。”比如，当你的狗和你一起睡的时候，表达不想和它们一起睡的愿望是完全合理的期望，如果你采取‘要么接受要么放弃’的态度，这种关系(人类的关系)就不会长久。”

Compromise. Ah yes, the hallmark of every long-lasting human relationship. “You need to talk about issues as early as possible. Maybe your spouse hates having the dog on any of the furniture. That’s probably not going to fly if you let Fido anywhere and everywhere at all times, so that’s where compromise comes in — no more sleeping on the bed, but the dog can still cuddle on the couch, for example.”

妥协。是的，这是每一种长久的人际关系的标志。“你需要尽早讨论问题。也许你的配偶讨厌狗出现在任何家具上。如果你让Fido在任何时间、任何地点都呆着，它可能就飞不起来了，所以这就是妥协的地方——不再睡在床上，但是狗狗仍然可以在沙发上窝着。”