如何度过四分之一的人生危机

如何度过四分之一的人生危机

Is there such a thing as a quarter life crisis and could it be the cause of you experiencing a lack of happiness and fulfilment in your life or career right now?

是否存在所谓的“四分之一人生危机”?它是否会导致你现在在生活或事业中缺乏幸福感和成就感?

According to popular psychology, a quarter life crisis is a crisis “involving anxiety over the direction and quality of one’s life” which is most commonly experienced in a period ranging from a person’s twenties up to their mid-thirties.[1] It tends to occur after we have finished our schooling and study, when we have settled into everyday life, often at major points or life changing events when we feel we are at a crossroads. We know something must change but we don’t know what or how to begin. It can feel confusing and lonely.

根据大众心理学，四分之一的人生危机是“对人生方向和生活质量的焦虑”，最常见的经历是在一个人20多岁到35多岁之间。它往往发生在我们完成学业和学习之后，当我们融入日常生活之后，当我们感到自己正处于一个十字路口时，它往往发生在人生的重要时刻或改变人生的事件中。我们知道有些事情必须改变，但我们不知道从何开始，如何开始。它会让人感到困惑和孤独。

The good news is this is quite a normal experience. With some insight and small steps, you can gain clarity and direction on a way forward.

好消息是，这是一个相当正常的经历。通过一些洞察力和小步骤，你可以在前进的道路上获得清晰的方向。

Firstly, it’s important to realize you are not alone. LinkedIn surveyed thousands of 25 to 33 years olds; the data showed that 75% had experienced a quarter life crisis with the average age being 27.

首先，重要的是要意识到你并不孤单。LinkedIn调查了数千名25至33岁的年轻人;数据显示75%的人经历过四分之一的人生危机，平均年龄为27岁。

Here you will find what I consider to be the complete guide. It contains the essential steps I have identified to get clear on your way forward and move through this period of your life with more certainty.

在这里你会找到我认为是完整的指南。它包含了我已经确定的基本步骤，让你在前进的道路上变得清晰，并更确定地度过你生命中的这段时期。

1. Stop Comparing Your Own Quarter Life Crisis to Your Friend’s

不要拿你自己的四分之一生活危机和你朋友的进行比较

2. Let Go of All the Should’s

放下所有应该做的事

3. Get Clear on What Is Important to You

清楚什么对你来说是重要的

4. Change Your Environment

改变你的环境

5. Enter the Dream Room and Ask Yourself “What If?”

走进梦想的房间，问问自己“如果……会怎样?”

6. Be Patient and Let Go of Control

要有耐心，放开控制

7. Ditch Your Perception of Life Always Being Perfect

抛弃你对生活总是完美的看法

8. Make a Stand for You

为你自己挺身而出

At the end of the day, no one else’s life, desires or dreams can bring you happiness and fulfilment; only what is important to you and what you really want can do that.

说到底，没有人的生活、欲望或梦想能给你带来幸福和满足;只有对你重要的和你真正想要的才能做到这一点。

By being patient and kind with yourself as you move through what can be your most exciting life-changing period, you will feel this crisis point end and find clarity on exactly what will light up your life.

在你度过人生中最激动人心的改变时期时，对自己保持耐心和友善，你就会感觉到危机的结束，并清楚地知道什么会点亮你的人生。