比尔盖茨的育儿经

比尔盖茨举起了他的孩子根据70年代爱情与逻辑公式-这里是他最为成功的孩子技巧培训

Bill Gates doesn't pretend he lives in an egalitarian household. When it comes to parenting his three children, the billionaire Microsoft mogul readily admits his wife Melinda has done more than her share of the work raising the kids.

比尔盖茨从未假装过着平等的家庭生活。这位亿万富翁承认，在抚养三个孩子的过程中，妻子梅琳达承担了更多责任。

"My wife does 80%," Gates told a crowd of Harvard students on Thursday. Gates spent two years there taking math and computer science courses as a pre-law student, but never finished up his degree (though he was later gifted an honorary diploma from the Ivy League university).

上周四，他告诉一群哈佛学生：“我妻子做了80%(的工作)。”比尔盖茨曾在哈佛上过两年课，学习数学和计算机科学，但并未完成学业、取得学位——不过，哈佛大学后来授予他荣誉学位。

"My eldest graduates from Stanford in June, so I'm optimistic she won't fall into my footsteps," Gates joked.

他开玩笑说：“今年六月，我的大女儿就从斯坦福毕业了。所以我可以乐观地说，她不会步我的后尘。”

Gates said he and his wife have been quite deliberate about the model they've used to raise their three children, who are now 15, 18, and 22 years old.

比尔盖茨夫妇育有三个子女，目前分别为15岁、18岁、22岁。比尔盖茨表示，他们夫妇二人对孩子的教育问题非常慎重。

He says the couple followed a 1970s "Love and Logic" parenting model. It's a formula that was created by a group of three men — a mix of psychologists, psychiatrists and former school administrators. The core idea of their philosophy is centered on the idea that exerting emotional control, essentially minimizing emotional reactions like shouting or reprimanding kids, is a good formula for parenting.

他们遵循上世纪70年代的“爱和逻辑”教育法。该方法由一位心理学家、一位精神病学家、一位学校管理者合作提出。它的核心理念是“情绪控制”，即最大程度地减少情绪反应，如大喊大叫、训斥孩子。这种方法能够帮助我们学习如何控制情绪和语言。

Gates admits he and his wife haven't been perfect at carrying out the approach."Can you get rid of the emotion? You can't totally do it," he said.

“你能摆脱这种情绪吗?你不能完全做到这一点，“他说。比尔盖茨承认，他们做得并不完美，因为人无法完全抛除情绪。

Aside from reining in hot-blooded parent tempers, the love and logic model also stresses the importance of not leaning into rewards for kids, but instead demonstrating unconditional love and admiring kids for who they are, not what they do (or don't) achieve, like a poor test score or a bad grade.

除了控制情绪外，这种教育方法还强调不要依赖物质奖励。相反，父母应该表达无条件的爱，应该赞美孩子本身，而非他们的成就或失败(例如考试分数)。

"Many highly successful people struggled with grades as children," Fay wrote on his site. "What's most important is that our children develop good character, curiosity, and problem-solving skills."

许多成功人士小时候成绩并不好。最重要的是使孩子具备良好的品格、好奇心、解决问题的技巧。

The model is a bit like the Socratic method, in that it pushes parents to focus on asking questions of their kids and getting them to think about how to solve their own problems, instead of feeding them answers.

这有点像苏格拉底式的教育方法。父母应该问孩子问题，引导孩子思考如何自己解决问题，而非直接提供答案。

Gates says the "Love and Logic" method is a far cry from the way he grew up, but he knew he wanted to do things differently with his own kids.

比尔盖茨表示，“爱和逻辑”教育法和他自己的成长经历相距甚远，但他希望为自己的孩子做点不一样的事情。

It wasn't the only way he set boundaries for his children while they were growing up. None of his kids owned a cell phone until they were 14 years old. The children also attended Catholic churchregularly with their parents. And they will each get about $10 million of their parents fortune as inheritance, a mere fraction of the mogul's roughly $90 billion net worth.

另外，他们规定孩子年满十四岁才能拥有手机;他们定期和孩子去天主教堂做礼拜;每个孩子将来各继承一千万美元的财产——相较于比尔盖茨夫妇的总资产，这只是九牛一毛。

"We want to strike a balance where they have the freedom to do anything, but not a lot of money showered on them so they could go out and do nothing," Gates once told TED.

“我们希望取得平衡，让他们能够自由自在地做任何事情，而不是给予他们大量金钱，让他们无所事事。”Gates曾经告诉TED。