幸福的恋人是这样的

1. They don’t believe the other person will “complete” them

他们不相信对方会“完整”

Happy people complete themselves before they look for someone else to enhance their lives. You have to enjoy your own company first and nobody else can replace that part of you. Many people live their lives as if they were a character in a romantic comedy, and believe that they must eat, sleep, and breath with their partner. Mentally strong people remind themselves they are complete just the way they are.

幸福的人完善自己之前找别人来提高他们的生活。你必须先享受你的自己的公司,没有人可以替代你的一部分。许多人生活就像在浪漫喜剧角色,并相信他们必须与伴侣一起吃,睡,呼吸。精神强大的人提醒自己他们完整是因为他们有自己的方式。

2. They don’t bring up the past to justify the present

他们不把过去用来证明现在

Happy people don’t bring up the past to win an argument or use it as relationship collateral. They try to work toward improving the relationship in that moment, instead of bringing up past events to justify their actions. Mentally strong people seek to live in the moment by understanding that the past has its place but will never solve today’s problems.

幸福的人不用过去来赢得争吵或使用它作为恋爱的抵押品。他们试图努力改善关系的那一刻,而不是把过去的事件带到现在来为自己的行为辩护。精神强大的人寻求活在当下,他们知道过去的事不会解决今天的问题。

3. They don’t look outside the relationship to improve the relationship

他们看起来不改善恋爱的关系

Happy people devote their full attention to themselves and their partner, when it comes to fixing problems in the relationship. They don’t seek another person to fulfill their needs. They don’t become distant and justify their behavior by looking outside of the relationship to feel better about themselves. They don’t engage in destructive behavior to avoid the inevitable.

幸福的人把精力都投入给了他们自己和他们的伴侣,当涉及到解决恋爱中的问题时。他们不寻求另一个人来满足他们的需求。他们不会变得遥远,证明他们的行为通过外部的关系有更好的自我感觉。他们不参与具有破坏性的行为以避免不可避免的问题。

4. They don’t put the other person down to feel better about themselves

他们不让对方失望来寻求更好的自我感觉

Happy people understand that you don’t treat other people this way. It’s a lot easier to blame someone else for the way you act or feel, instead of looking at why you react the way you do. Mentally strong people know that the only way to have a successful relationship is to lift the other person up, not put them down in order to temporarily feel better about themselves.

幸福的人明白你不应该这样对待别人。这很容易责怪别人的行为或感觉,而不是看你反应的方式是为什么。精神强大的人都知道有一个成功的恋爱的唯一途径是让对方开心, 不让对方失望来寻求更好的自我感觉。

5. They don’t stop communicating

他们不停止沟通

Happy people communicate with others in the good times and in the bad. They don’t avoid conversations that need to be had. They seek to better understand their partner, instead of avoiding topics that are uncomfortable or awkward. The mentally strong don’t avoid things because they are uncomfortable, but rather look at these situations as welcome opportunities to improve the relationship.

幸福的人在任何时候都会与别人交流。他们不避免需要的谈话。他们想要更好地理解他们的伴侣,而不是避免不舒服或尴尬的话题。精神强大的人不因为他们不舒服而避免事 ,而是把这些情况当做机会来改善关系。

6. They don’t stop loving themselves

他们不停止爱自己

Happy people love themselves first, so they can love other people, not the other way around. Mentally strong people spend time improving their lives first, before they try and help anyone else. They know that by radiating love, it will only help the relationship succeed. Mentally strong people put themselves first.

幸福的人先爱自己,这样他们就可以爱别人,而不是相反。精神强大的人在他们试着帮助别人之前首先花时间改善他们的生活。他们知道通过辐射爱,它只会使恋爱成功。精神强大的人把自己放在第一位。

It’s a lot easier to find fault in someone else, especially when we become vulnerable and trust someone we love. I encourage you to be mentally strong first, then ro seek someone who complements who you already are. Only through self discovery can we better understand the types of people who will enhance our lives.

这很容易找到在别人的错,尤其是当我们变得脆弱和相信我们爱的人时。我鼓励您精神强大,然后寻求能完善你自己的人。只有通过自我发现我们才能更好地理解哪种类型的人会改善我们的生活。

To successfully improve any relationship, you no longer seek to change the other person, but you will instead seek to continually enhance a long and prosperous life together.

你不再试图通过改变对方来成功改善任何关系 ,但你将转而寻求一起让生活不断提高和繁荣。