你越来越不可爱了，可是你却还没意识到

　　
Everyone strives to be a great person, kind, caring, and compassionate. But for some people, thats not always the case. There are many behaviors or bad habits that people have that make them seem unattractive, annoying, or someone that no one wants to be around with. A few of these harmful characteristics are offered for you below, and if you happen to realize that you embody any of them quit! You might find your circle of friends grow once you do.

　　人人都在努力成为一个优秀的人，善良，有爱心，有同情心。可是不是所有人都是这么想的。一些人的许多行为或坏习惯使得他们不那么有吸引力，烦人，甚至没有人愿意理他们。下面列出了一些坏特征，如果你意识到你身上有这样一些毛病赶紧改掉吧!这样做了，你就你能找到属于你自己的朋友圈。

　　1. You are Self-Absorbed

　　自恋

　　Many people do this without realizing it. You focus solely on yourself, talk only about yourself, and often dont care what others around you have to say. You think youre the only one who matters. If this is you, its time to change. No one wants to be a friend with someone who only cares about themselves.

　　许多人自恋自己却没有意识到。你只将注意力集中在自己身上，只谈论自己，经常不关心周围的人。你认为自己是最重要的人。如是你是这样的人，是时候做出改变了。没人想和一个只关心自己的人做朋友。

　　2. You Focus on Outer Beauty, Ignoring Whats Inside

　　只关注外在美，忽视了内在美

　　Surprisingly, true beauty comes from within your heart, body, and soul. Your physical appearance isnt what should matter, but people with unattractive behaviors think that outer beauty is all that matters. Take a look in the mirror deep within yourself and you might see what lies beneath. An ugly person. Unless you change your way of thinking.

　　令人吃惊的是，真正的美是一个人的内心，身体和灵魂散发出来的。你的物理表现不是那么重要，但是一个总是表现得很不受欢迎的人认为外在美是最重要的。看看镜子里内心最深处的你，你能看到那里有什么。一个丑陋的人。除非你改变你的思考方式。

　　3. You are Always in Competition

　　一直在竞争/一直有竞争心理

　　Are you the person who has to be better than everyone else, see more, do more? If so, youre an unattractive person. You should be more caring towards your friends, and let them have their moment. If they overcame their fear of heights and climbed 10 feet in the air, dont say, Thats all? I’ve climbed 30 feet! Instead say, Wow! Thats awesome. Im really proud of you.

　　你是不是一直要求要比别人做的好。看的远，做的多?如果是这样的话，你是一个不受欢迎的人。你应该向你的朋友们表达出你对他们的关心，接受属于他们的光环。如果他们克服了自己的恐高症，爬到了10英尺高的地方，不要之说一句“就这样?我可是爬过30英尺呢!”可以说“哇!太棒了!我真为你感到自豪。”

　　4. You View Your Friends as Enemies

　　视朋友为敌人

　　People who are seen as unattractive are often in fights with their friends. Instead of banning together and truly being able to care for others, youre always turning your back, and stabbing them in theirs. Your friends are not your enemies. They are your allies.

　　不受欢迎的人总是和朋友之间有摩擦。不和朋友团结在一起，也不真正关心他们，背后捅朋友刀子。你的朋友不是敌人，他们是你的盟友。

　　5. You Question Your Importance to Others

　　怀疑你在别人心中的地位

　　You are definitely an unattractive person when you constantly question why others don’t see you as important as you think they should. For instance, your two friends went somewhere without you it doesnt matter to them but to you it does. Get over it. Theyre still your friend, and their lives dont stop when youre not around.

　　如果你一直质问别人为什么你没有得到应有的重视,那你就真的是太招人烦了。比如说，你的两个朋友去了别的地方，没有带你去。这对他们没什么影响，可是你却受不了。忘了它吧。他们还是你的朋友，即使你不在他们身边，他们的生活也能照常运转。

　　6. You are the Boss

　　你说了才算

　　In a group of friends, everyone should be on an equal playing field. If youre the one always making the decisions, constantly needing to be in charge, or trying to control what others are doing, youre acting in an unattractive way.

　　在朋友圈里，每个人的地位都应该是平等的。如果你是那个总是总在做决定的人，总是需要掌管一切，或者试图掌控别人的行为，你是不会找人喜欢的。

　　7. You are Dishonest

　　不诚实

　　When it comes to being a great friend, or someone who others want to be around, you need to be honest. Many people who partake in ugly behaviors are often dishonest, lying about everything, inquiring about every question asked about them, and how they truly feel about different things. Yes, honesty is the best policy.

　　要成为一个合格的朋友，或者说成为一个受欢迎的人，你得是一个诚实的人。许多行为不端的人不诚实，谎话连篇，刨根问底每个问到他们的问题和对不同事物的真实看法。因此，诚实是最好的选择。

　　8. You are Rude

　　粗鲁

　　If youre the person thats frequently impolite, offensive, or embarrassing your friends with your rude comments in public quit. Youre not someone people want to be around. There are going to be times when you dont agree with someone, or see something you didnt want to see, but theres no point in making a scene, because youre making everyone look at your terrible behavior and theyre not seeing what youre seeing.

　　如果你常常没礼貌、冒犯别人或用粗言秽语让朋友难堪，请改改吧。不然没人会想呆在你的身边。总有些时候你不赞同某些人，或者是看到你不想看的情景，但是没有必要大闹一场吧。 别人只会看到你的粗暴行为，而不能明白你的感受。

　　9. You are Unreliable, Yet Dependent Upon Others

　　不靠谱，还总是依赖别人

　　Are you there when your friends call for help? Or are you always busy when someone needs you? If youre the person no one can count on, thats an unattractive quality in friendships. Similarly, if youre the one always calling for help from others, yet never offering yours when they need it, thats another unattractive quality that no one wants in a friend.

　　你是不是总是找朋友帮忙?或者别人需要你的时候，你总是很忙?如果你是一个没人愿意依赖的人。在和别人相处中，无法值得依靠是一个非常低劣的品质。更甚，如果你从没帮助别人，还总是要求他人帮助你，有这种行为的人是没有人愿意和你交朋友的。

　　10. You are Always Negative

　　负能量爆棚

　　Pessimism is not an attractive quality. If youre constantly putting things down, or seeing situations in a negative light, try and change your attitude. Nobody wants to be friends with someone whos constantly seeing the negative instead of the positive.

　　消极可不是一个吸引人的特性。如果你一直在贬低或者用一种消极的态度对待事情的话，试着改变你的态度。没人想和一直用消极对待事情的人做朋友，人们愿意和正能量的人做朋友。