高效组织会议——赞同、反对和妥协 Agreeing, Disagreeing, and Compromising

赞同、反对和妥协　Agreeing, Disagreeing, and Compromising

在日常生活中，我们要接触各种类型的人，当然也包括要接触（in contact）那些不同类型的人和想法不一样的人。不赞同并不是要声嘶力竭、怒发冲冠。和一个与你观点背道而驰的人彬彬有礼（polite）地讨论是需要技巧和实践锻炼的（skill and practice）。

表达赞同

赞同别人的观点，除了可以说“I agree with you”以外，还有其他很多种说法。你也可以用“absolutely”“exactly”“no doubt”等副词或短语来增强肯定语气。

☉I agree with you 100 percent.That’s so true.

我百分之百赞同，那是正确无误的。

☉I couldn't agree with you more.

我完全赞同您。

☉Tell me about it！

给我说说吧。

☉No doubt about it.You're absolutely right.

毋庸置疑，您完全正确。

☉Absolutely.You have a point there.

毫无疑问，您说得有道理。

☉That’s for sure.That's exactly how I feel.

那当然。跟我想的完全一样。

☉Exactly.I was just going to say that.

没错，我正想这么说。

☉I'm afraid I agree with James.

我赞同詹姆斯。

☉I have to side with Daniel on this one.

在这个问题上，我站在丹尼尔一边。

☉（Agree with negative statement）Me neither.

（同意某否定意见）我也不（同意）。

☉（Weak）I suppose so./I guess so.

（较弱）我想是的。/我猜是的。

表达不赞同

给别人表述观点（speak his mind）的机会。倾听会让你把注意力集中（focus on）到对话的内容上。即便你根本不同意对方的观点，你也要通过积极关注（being attentive）来表达你的尊敬。

☉No way.I totally disagree.

行不通，我完全反对。

☉I’m not so sure about that.That’s not always the case.

我不这么看。不总是那样的。

☉I’m afraid I disagree.That’s not always true.

我恐怕无法苟同。并非总是如此。

☉I totally disagree.

我完全反对。

☉I’d say the exact opposite.

我认为正好相反。

☉I beg to differ.

恕我不敢苟同。

☉Not necessarily.

未必。

打断

平心静气地讨论，不要指名道姓，恶语中伤。要温和体贴（courteous and consideration），引导对方向你的观点靠拢，在甩出自己的观点时也要兼顾对方的感受。退出的时候要做到承上启下，保持礼貌。

☉Can I add something here?

我能补充两句吗？

☉Is it okay if I jump in for a second?

如果你们不介意的话，我能插句话吗？

☉If I might add something……

我能否补充点……

☉Can I throw my two-cents in?

我能否表达一下我的想法？

☉Sorry to interrupt, but……

很抱歉打断你了，但是……

☉（After accidentally interrupting someone）Sorry, go ahead./Sorry, you were saying……

（在偶然打断某人后）对不起，请继续。/对不起，您刚才说……

☉（After being interrupted.）You didn’t let me finish.

（在被打断之后）你刚才没有让我说完。

妥协或转换话题

当讨论迷失方向（leading nowhere）时就该转换话题了。如果双方都已扫兴就没有必要继续下去了。礼貌地请求对方或者自己主动换一个有趣的话题，也可以直接说想休息一下。

☉Let's just move on, shall we?

让我们谈些别的，行吗？

☉Let's drop it.

让我们先到此为止吧。

☉I think we're going to have to agree to disagree.

我想我们只好各持己见了。

☉Whatever you say.

你说什么就是什么吧。

☉If you say so.

就按你说的吧。

总结

“理不辩则不明”，无论你是否赞同对方的观点，都应当是“君子之争”。要别人心悦诚服，就得先当谦谦君子，以理服人。即便是不赞同别人的观点，也要认真倾听，理解其出发点。如果没有谈下去的必要，就审时度势，调整话题，毕竟“友谊第一”。

Words　单词表

carpet地毯

climate气候

economic经济的

memo备忘录

misread错读，误读

open house开放参观

practical joke恶作剧

presentable体面的，漂亮的

promot促进；升级

qualified合格的

repaint重画，重新绘制

repair修复

replace替换，取代

resale转售，转卖

selective选择性的

Phrases　短语表

fixer-upper有待修缮的

fix-me-up尚需修整的

head（a department）领导（一个部门）hot new thing热门新事物I bet我敢打赌，我肯定

jump in跳跃

jump on（sth）马上抓住机会做某事

move on继续前进

on this one就此一（动词）

outta luck不走运，运气差

pretty非常的

show a house展示房子

side with（person）支持（某人）

take place发生

takes time需要时间

that's crazy那真是疯了

the joke's on（person）跟（某人）开玩笑的

turn-around profit周转利润

What were they thinking?他们当时在想什么？

You'll never guess.你永远猜不到。

实景对话1

A：Did you hear about who got promoted to head the Sales Department?

You'll never guess！Daniel Barnes, the old maintenance guy. I don'tknow what the management was thinking！

B：What?！Daniel Barnes just cleans the office. How can he do sales?That's crazy！

A：That's for sure. That's exactly how I feel.They must have made this decision as a practical joke！

B：No doubt about it. You're absolutely right.I bet they will tell us all tomorrow morning that the joke's on us.

C：Is it okay if I jump in for a second?If I might add something, I think you might have misread the memo. The new head of Sales is Barney Daniels, not Daniel Barnes.And Daniel Barnes has also been promoted to Maintenance Department head.

A：Oh, I didn't realize that.

B：Me neither.

C：And if you don't mind, can I throw my two-cents in?I think that if the management did ask Daniel Barnes to lead the Sales Department, he might do a better job than Barney Daniels！

A：I totally disagree. I know Barney pretty well.I think he's pretty qualified.

B：I'm afraid I agree with James. I have to side with Barney on this one.

A：你有没有听说是谁被提升为销售部主管了？你绝对猜不到！是丹尼尔·巴恩斯，维护保养的那个老家伙。真不知道领导是怎么想的！

B：什么？丹尼尔·巴恩斯只会打扫办公室，他怎么会搞销售？太疯狂了吧！

A：那当然。跟我想的完全一样。做这样的决定一定是个恶作剧！

B：错不了。你完全正确。我打赌明天一早他们就会告诉大家那是在和我们开玩笑。

C：如果你们不介意的话，我能插句话吗？如果我补充点什么的话，我想一定是你误读了备忘录。新的销售部总监是巴尼·丹尼尔斯，不是丹尼尔·巴恩斯。而且丹尼尔·巴恩斯也被提升为维修部的头儿了。

A：哦，我还真没有意识到那个。

B：我也没有。

C：如果你们不介意的话，我能否表达一下我的想法？如果经理部让丹尼尔·巴恩斯来领导销售部的话，他可能会比巴尼·丹尼尔斯干得好。

A：我完全不同意。我很了解巴尼。我想他完全能胜任。

B：我也赞同詹姆斯所说的。在这点上，我站在巴尼的一边。

实景对话2

A：The open house needs to take place next week. We've got to jump on this right away, or we might lose the opportunity.

B：No way. I totally disagree.There is no way that we can get the property ready by next week. There are so many repairs that must be made；the carpeting needs to be replaced, and all the rooms need to be repainted.It takes time to make a house presentable to buyers.If we show the house before it's ready we'll lose opportunity.

A：I'm not so sure about that. It's not always the case that buyers want a finished product. Many investors are looking for a fix-me-up.The hot new thing is buying houses that need a little work and making a turn-around profit on the resale.

B：I'm afraid I disagree. Maybe in last year's real estate market you might be able to load off a fixer-upper. But that's not always true in today's economic climate.Nowadays people are more selective.

A：I'd say the exact opposite. The economic downturn is the perfect time for people to pick up foreclosed properties at a fraction of their actual value. Investment in real estate is hot right now.We've got to move on this property or we're gonna be outta luck.

B：Not necessarily. I still think we should wait.

A：展示屋必须在下周完工。我们得马上着手做这件事，否则我们将会丢失这个机会。

B：行不通。我完全反对。我们无法做到在下周前就把房子准备就绪。有许多地方需要修补。地毯需要换，所有的房间都需要重新粉刷。要让房子焕然一新地出现在买家面前是需要时间的。如果还没有准备好就展示房子，我们肯定会失去这次机会的。

A：我不这么看。并不是所有的买家都想要成品。许多投资者都是在找有待修补的半成品。一个新的热门事物就是买一个还需要整修的房子，稍作修缮后再卖。

B：我恐怕无法苟同。在去年那样的房地产大环境下，你或许能够卖掉需整修的房子，但在今年的经济气候下就不是这样了。现在人们更挑剔了。

A：要我说事实正好相反。经济下滑使人们财政能力受限而更倾向于选择待整修房。现在投资房地产是炙手可热的时机。在这个房产上我们必须积极挺进，否则我们就倒霉了。

B：未必。我仍然觉得我们应该等。