英语美文朗读 第338期 Ignore What Other People Think Of You(下)

10 reasons to ignore what other people think of you.

 

 

Number 6 - It's good for your career. Think about this for a second. Who are the people who climb the management and leadership ladders at work? It's usually those who are more self-serving. When someone puts their own needs first, they are more likely to set goals and to strive to meet those goals. They're also less likely to be apologetic about their drive, and as a result, they are much more likely to seek a promotion and ask for a raise. While leaders and managers have to take care of the people around them, they also have to take care of themselves. And if you can't take care of yourself, it's unlikely you'll be very good at taking care of others.

第六，这对你的事业有好处。想一下，做管理的，当领导的，都是哪些人？通常就是那些懂得为自己服务的人。只要人们把自己的需求放在第一位，他们就更有可能定下目标，并朝着目标努力。他们有雄心壮志，而且不会因此感到不好意思。因此，他们更有可能升职，或者要求加薪。领导和管理者需要关注他们身边的人，同时他们也需要照顾自己的需求。如果你不懂照顾自己的需求，那么你也无法关注到身边的人。

 

Number 7 - Others don't care as much as you think. We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is, those people are thinking the exact same thing. In fact, people generally don't think outside themselves a great deal of time. The average person filters their world through their ego. We simply think about most things in terms of me or mine. This means that, unless who you are or what you have done directly affects another person or their life, they are unlikely to spend much time thinking about you at all.

第七，你以为别人很在乎你，其实不然。每一天，我们都在想，别人觉得我怎么样？然而，其实，他们和你一样在纠结这个问题。事实上，多数情况下，人们心中想的只有他们自己。普通人的世界，是以自我为中心的。无论遇到什么事情，我们都是从自己的角度出发去考虑。这就意味着，除非你或者你做的事情对他人有影响，否则别人根本不会想起你。

 

Number 8 - You'll never please everyone. You cannot please all of the people, all of the time. It is impossible to live up to everyone's expectations, so there's really no point in burning yourself out trying to do so. It's better to be loved by a few people that you care about, than to be liked by everyone. These people include, family, friends and your spouse, basically the people who love you for who you are, and the people who will be there for you during your worst times. Focus on these people, because they're the people that matter the most.

第八，你不可能让所有人都满意。你不可能总是让所有人都满意，不可能总是满足所有人的期待，所以你没有必要竭尽全力去迎合别人。你在乎的人爱你，这比让所有人都喜欢你更重要。你在乎的人，包括你的家人，朋友，爱人，那些爱你的人，那些在你人生失意时还能伴你左右的人。把你的注意力放在这些人身上，因为他们才是最重要的。

 

Number 9 - You reap what you sow. Worrying too much about what other people think can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, because the way we think starts to become the way we behave. And the behavior we use in an attempt to please others, can actually cause the opposing effect! This means that if you're a push-over, then you're going to be attracting others in your life who are also push-overs. And vice versa. Being a people-pleaser is not going to stop you from being judged. Most people don't like push-overs, but, at the same time, they don't like arrogant assholes either. In the end, it is you who faces the consequences of the things you do. Both good and bad.

第九，种瓜得瓜，种豆得豆。总是太在乎别人对你的看法，会让你真的为了迎合他人而努力，因为，我们怎么想，决定了我们怎么做。那些为了取悦他人而做的事情，其实可能会适得其反。这就意味着，如果你是个软柿子，那么你也会吸引软柿子，反之亦然。讨好别人是没用的，别人该怎么想还是怎么想。大多数人不喜欢软柿子，但是，同时，他们也不喜欢狂妄自大的人。毕竟，无论结果是好事坏，你都要面对。

 

Number 10 - Life is simply too short. You only have one life to live, so why would you spend it worrying about other people's opinions? Do whatever you want, be whoever you want. Live your life without worrying about other people's thoughts and opinions, and you will live your life to the fullest. Remember, you are allowed to make decisions that are in the interest of your life, even when others don't approve. You really can make a conscious effort to stop giving a damn. And once you give up catering to other people's opinion and thoughts, you will find out who you truly are. The world is already full of people who obey the status quo. But the people who don't give a crap are the ones that change the world.

第十，生命很短。你只活这么一次，为什么你要在乎别人的看法？做你想做的事，成为你想成为的人。好好经营自己的生活，不要在意别人的看法，你才能尽情地享受自己的生活。记住，从自己的利益出发，做自己的决定，这是你的自由，别人反对你也没用。努力让自己做到不在乎别人的看法，这是你能做到的。一旦你停止迎合别人的想法，你就会找到真实的自己。这个世界上，有很多安于现状的人。然而，只有那些心无旁骛的人，才能改变世界。

 

Now it's up to you to choose which way you want to go!

想走哪条路？你自己决定吧！